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Couy Griffin, Chairman of the Otero County Commission and Cowboys for Trump co-founder, rides his horse down 5th Avenue May 1, 2020 in New York City.

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A New Mexico judge Tuesday declared that the Jan. 6 riot in the Capitol was a “riot” because he ruled that Otero County Commissioner and founder of Cowboys for Trump Couy Griffin be removed from office must be because he took part in the attack.

Griffin will not be allowed to hold federal or state office for life — including his current role as district commissioner, from which he will be ousted “effective immediately,” Judge Francis Mathew ruled.

Griffin was “constitutionally disqualified” from those positions as of Jan. 6, 2021, the judge concluded.

That day, a violent mob of supporters of former President Donald Trump stormed the US Capitol, forcing lawmakers to leave their chambers and disrupting the transfer of power to President Joe Biden. Griffin was convicted in March of a misdemeanor for violating the restricted Capitol grounds.

The riot and the planning and incitement that led to it “constituted a ‘rebellion'” under the 14th Amendment, Mathew wrote in the New Mexico 1st Circuit Court decision.

The ruling was the first time a court had found that the Capitol riot met the definition of a riot, according to the government nonprofit watchdog group CREW, which represented the plaintiffs who filed the suit to disqualify Griffin.

“This decision makes clear that all current or former officials who took an oath to defend the US Constitution and then participated in the riot of 6.

Griffin told CNN later Tuesday that he had been ordered to clean up his desk.

“I’m shocked, just shocked,” Griffin told CNN. “I really didn’t feel like the state was going to attack me like that. I don’t know where to go from here.”

Mathew’s ruling also marks the first time since 1869 that a court has disqualified an officer under Section 3 of the 14th Amendment, according to CREW.

This section, known as the disqualification clause, prohibits any person from holding any civil or military office at the federal or state level of the United States if they are “participating in an insurrection or rebellion against the same, or offering aid or consolation to the enemies thereof.” have done.”

Griffin did not enter the Capitol itself or commit any violence during the Jan. 6 riots, but he did participate and his actions “supported the riot,” Mathew judged.

“By joining the mob and trespassing on unauthorized Capitol property, Mr. Griffin helped delay the Congressional election certification process,” the judge wrote. Griffin’s presence “helped to overwhelm law enforcement” and he “instigated, encouraged and helped normalize violence” during the riot, Mathew ruled.

In addition, the judge dismissed as “unfounded” the arguments put forward by Griffin, who represented himself in the case.

Griffin’s attempts to “clean up his actions are without merit and are at odds with the evidence presented by the plaintiffs, given that he himself has not presented any evidence in his own defense,” Mathew wrote.

His arguments in court were “not credible and amounted to nothing more than trying to put lipstick on a pig,” added the judge.

Griffin was arrested less than two weeks after the Capitol riot. He was found guilty in March and on June 17 was sentenced to a two-week prison term along with a $3,000 fine and community service.

Griffin, a Republican and vocal Trump supporter, has repeated the former president’s false claims that the 2020 election results were marred by widespread fraud.

He and the other two GOP members who make up the Otero County Commission have refused to confirm recent primary election results, reportedly citing conspiracy theories about Dominion voting machines. The commission ultimately voted 2 to 1 to confirm the primary findings, with Griffin voting no.

In 2019, Griffin founded Cowboys for Trump, a group that hosted pro-Trump horseback riding parades.

Bookbinder called Tuesday’s ruling “a historic victory for accountability for the January 6 insurgency and efforts to disrupt the peaceful transfer of power in the United States.”

“Protecting American democracy means ensuring those who violate their oath to the Constitution are held accountable,” he said.

Good parenting requires empathy, compassion, and a willingness to make some of your needs secondary—essentially, many of the qualities you wouldn’t find in a narcissist.

But as a psychologist studying the effects of narcissism in family relationships, I’ve noticed that many narcissistic traits, such as grandiosity, superiority, and entitlement, are on the rise.

Narcissistic parenting isn’t about showing off on social media or forcing strict extracurricular activities on your kids. It goes much deeper and it is one of the most toxic ways to raise your children. Narcissistic parents have a hard time allowing their children to be their own people or to get their own needs met.

You may know a narcissistic parent and not realize it. Here are the usual signs:

1. They see their child as a source of validation.

Narcissists will often flaunt their children loudly when they score the winning goal or play the big part in the school play. You can see them constantly bragging online or bringing up their child’s beauty or talent in conversations.

When something doesn’t affect their child’s achievements, the parents become checked out, distant, and disinterested in their child. They generally shame their child’s need for connection or validation and instead see them as a tool to meet those needs for themselves.

2. They react emotionally but are ashamed of their child’s feelings.

Narcissists are often angry and aggressive when they feel disappointed or frustrated. If they think their child is being critical or defiant, they may lash out. These reactions can include screaming, sudden outbursts of anger, or, in more severe cases, physical violence.

Meanwhile, other narcissistic people’s emotions can make them uncomfortable and they may despise them. You can embarrass your child for not sharing his feelings at all with phrases like “Get over yourself, it wasn’t that big of a deal” or “Stop crying and be tougher.”

3. They always put their own needs first.

Sometimes adults need to put real problems first—perhaps a late shift is unavoidable, or housework may take up an entire afternoon. But narcissistic parents expect their children to make sacrifices so they can do or have what they want.

For example, if the parents enjoy sailing, their children must sail every weekend. Or if the parent has a standing tennis match, then the parent will never miss it, even for something as important as a graduation.

4. You have bad boundaries.

Narcissistic parents can be quite pushy. If they don’t feel like it, they won’t interact with the child. But if they want the child to validate them, they may feel like they can interrupt their child’s and ask them to do whatever they want.

They may ask probing questions or criticize their child in ways that also feel intrusive, such as comments about weight, appearance, or other characteristics that embarrass the child.

5. You play favorites.

Narcissistic parents maintain their power by triangulating or playing favorites. They may have a golden child that they compliment excessively, for example, while speaking badly of another child in the family.

This can make children feel uncomfortable, disloyal, and psychologically insecure. They may feel that they need to follow or impress the narcissistic parent in order to avoid their anger and maintain good standing in the family.

6. They blame their children.

Narcissists feel the need to feel perfect, so they shirk responsibility for their own missteps and blame their children. They can be cruel when they feel criticized, and their comments often sting.

Common refrains from narcissistic parents might be something like “It’s your fault I’m so tired” or “I could have had a great career if I didn’t have to deal with you.”

Over time, children of narcissistic parents internalize these comments and begin to blame themselves, believing, “If I have needs, I’ll make everyone else feel or do worse.”

7. They expect the child to be the caregiver.

At a relatively young age, the message from a narcissistic parent is that their child needs to take care of them.

This often extends well into adulthood, where the narcissistic parent can be quite manipulative. A common statement might be, “I fed you and clothed you, so now you owe me.” Many narcissists expect their children to take care of and support them later in life.